{December 25, 2015}   Temptation and repulsion

To put them aside, to shove them off
I ignore, atleast try to, these feelings and
I cannot.

It’s an inner battle between
ARGH’s and AWW’s
between what I desire and I am sickened by
And then it breaks, cravings overruns what
I am resisting and descends a great
darkness upon a COLD WINTER’s EVE
……(but then…)

Pain is all that your GUILT BEARS,
you are sickened with what you have become,
as love to my mind……
Weak is your soul! temptations are too strong!
Pain eludes you! Adrnaline is strong and weakens power of guilt.
(As for me…)

I am numb and dumbfounded
as the VICIOUS cycle repeats itself
Mush and hate
temptation and repulsion.


A bridge is a span built to overcome obstacles such as water bodies,valley e.t.c. One of the biggest obstacle that any living creäture faces is the obstacle of time . We homo-sapiens can’t escape it either. With all our knowledge , technology, we can’t control time yet we  overcome this obstacle through a bridge. Grandparents form a bridge between the past, present and the future. Therefore they can prevent the family from doing things that ‘harmed’ them in the past, use their experience ,wisdom and knowledge to improve the present and lead the family towards a better future.
Research suggests that grandparents influence in a child’s life , benefits them more emotionally and mentally than any other. They are major support for the family and great playmates for the children.They play countless role in a family, be it role of a historian, telling stories of relatives,important events ,family traditions, or the role of a role model. They are often seen managing the family, giving it advice , sharing skills and talents and proving to be a role model that incarnate LOYALTY & HARD-WORK  in the family.


{December 28, 2013}   LIFE IS A GAMBLE


Many-many faces scrambling,
Me and my worries just doubling.
Who is who and what is what?
truth i know after we grew apart.
Lie is the truth and truth is a lie,
a friendship that makes my anger fly.
Abra ka dabra ping pong poo,
I wish to have a magic wand too,
so my spell could solve this scramble,
nothing to worry,just life is a gamble.
I may win or i may lose,
its my destiny which is to choose.
Destiny had made things so clear,
losing everyone specially people so dear.
Don’t know if i am actually very wrong,
or they’ve just made the “bad list” so long.
Its really hurting but still smiling,
and all the things have just started piling
At the end i have learnt a thing,
Life is a gamble and you have to win it!!
~~~~~~~~TADA~~~~~~~~~~~~ 🙂 :))

{October 13, 2013}   QUALITY OF BEST FRIEND -PART 2/5

Part 2: Building Trusting and Loyalty


Trust each other. You may find it hard in life and think that it is impossible to keep your best friend happy. To be a good best friend really doesn’t take much. All you have to do really is make sure you can both trust each other about really important matters. Don’t try to trick or use your friend to your advantage; you need to make them know they can trust you.

  • Realize that your best friend may have other friends. Trust that you’re really important to him or her and let your best friend have a social life outside of you. Love between friends is never jealous.
    • To prevent loneliness from biting you, have a small circle of friends. That way, if one friend is unavailable or he/she turns out to be your enemy, you’ll have other friends to support you. It’s good to know as many people as possible, but only have a few close friends that you tell your secrets to.
  • Don’t keep secrets. Be open about what’s going on in your life and what you hear about other people. If you don’t want to talk about something, don’t bring it up in the first place. If your best friend insists on hearing and you still don’t want to talk about it, say: “You know you’re my best friend; if I were going to tell anybody, it would be you. But I’m just not comfortable talking about it with anyone. I promise you’ll be the first to know when I’m ready talk, okay?”
  • Know that you’ll probably go through rough patches. Bear in mind though that sometimes you will have to give them some space so that they can have time alone and think things through. Being a best friend means understanding when a little bit of time alone is a good thing.

    Be trustworthy. If they tell you a secret, make sure to keep it. Never tell someone a secret your friend wanted you to keep. Don’t even leak it out to someone you know you can trust. A secret is a secret.

    • Know the difference between a harmless secret and a dangerous secret. Dangerous secrets not only threaten your friend’s life, but it can also affect you as well. Despite the fact that your friend may not want people to know about her secret, it’s best to tell your parents or a trusted adult about this. Keep in mind that your friend might have told you her secret because she is tired of keeping it to herself and she is silently asking for help.
    • Keep your word. If you say you’re going to do something, do it. Follow through with it. You know what they say: Talk is cheap. Let your best friend know that if you say you’re going to do something, you don’t ever back away.
    • Don’t gossip about your best friend. Don’t say anything that might turn into a rumor. For example, if they had a crush on a cute guy/girl,they’d probably be embarrassed if you told someone. Make sure you know your best friend is okay with it if you do tell other people. Things like this are sometimes hard to do, but if you want a solid friendship you have to be willing to do them.

      Be loyal. Stick up for your friend when they need it. Respect those times when they need to stick up for themselves. Trust your friend and allow yourself to be vulnerable with them. Through ups, downs, and disagreements, you’ll still try to work things out and be their friend, truly demonstrating your loyalty.

      • Say “no” when you need to while still being their friend. A friend of integrity is of great value. Tell them respectfully when you think they’re wrong. The journey of life is about learning from your mistakes, not always needing to be right.
      • If you don’t learn to say “no” to your friend, it’ll hurt your friendship more than improve it. Not only may your friend grow too reliant on you, but you’ll also feel strained and angry.

      When you two fight, try to work things out so everyone is happy. Don’t say mean things, whether it is right in their face or through a text. Apologize, but understand that it may take some time to get over what’s happened. Let them cool down and talk to you when they are ready.

      • Never leave the problem alone and pretend it doesn’t exist. It will not fade, and it will eventually pop up again later. It’s best to solve the problem while it’s small before it grows bigger and more painful.
      • If you two need help solving your problems, ask your parents or a trusted adult to help.

      Come through in the clutch. When your friend really needs something done, or a favor, be there for them. Help out. Think of how much they’d appreciate it. You never know when you’ll be stuck between a rock and a hard place and might need someone (a good friend, maybe?) to bail you out.


      Stick up for your best friend. Sitting and watching your best friend get picked on or teased is definitely not going to earn you a brownie badge!! If your best friend is getting seriously bullied and you’re scared you’ll get hurt if you get involved, then get help from a teacher or parents. If you can stick up for them without getting harmed yourself, make sure you do so. Imagine how you would feel if you were being picked on and a friend told everyone to shut up and clear off.

    • If you or your friend consistently has problems with another person, try not to be childish or immature about it. Don’t prank them or embarrass them; sadly, that will only make things worse. Tell an adult what’s happening, or simply ignore them. People hate being ignored and eventually lose interest in you.

{October 12, 2013}   QUALITY OF BEST FRIEND- part 1/5

Part 1: Respecting Yourself


Be your own best friend first. Learn how to respect yourself. If you can’t respect yourself, then you can’t respect others. Decide what boundaries are important to you and respect them. Not only is this healthy for you, but you’ll also get enough practice and experience so that you’ll be familiar in this area when respecting other people’s boundaries. Understand what values are important to you and stick by them. Seek out others who honor those values because you’ll only end up hurting yourself and possibly others if those people don’t have the same values as you.

Close relationships with other people — whether it’s a romantic relationship or an intimate friendship — teach us a lot about ourselves. Don’t be afraid to learn about yourself. If you don’t like who you are, it’s hard for other people to like you.

  • Don’t judge yourself too harshly. It’s easy to hold ourselves to a really high standard sometimes, a standard that is impossible to uphold. If you’re a perfectionist, learn to be a little forgiving toward yourself.
  • Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable. Everyone feels vulnerable about some things, right? Don’t be afraid to show your best friends the parts of yourself that are vulnerable. They won’t care, and if they do, they might not be the right friend for you.
  • If your friends kindly point out your faults and/or suggest you make certain changes to help your friendships blossom, don’t automatically grow defensive or harbor bitter feelings against them. They are only trying to help you become a better person, and you should feel blessed to have such thoughtful friends. Also, if you improve yourself, you’ll be able to prevent future friendships from being torn apart.
    • However, if your friends aren’t being very nice to you about your faults and picking on you for it, kindly let them know how you feel. If they refuse to stop, you may not want to spend as much time with them anymore.
      Be yourself.
    • Being yourself around someone is part of what makes you all best friends. You are who you are, and your best friend will accept that. Being “fake” could lead you to losing your best friend, and it gets tiring to be someone whom you’re not. Be best friends with someone who you know you can be yourself around because it isn’t worth it trying to be someone you’re not in order to get closer to someone else.
      • Don’t hold things in. If you feel uncomfortable or have hard feelings toward your best friend, talk about it with them. It hurts even more when your friendship is being torn to bits while your friend has no idea how to fix it. Make things comfortable, and you’ll both go through thick and thin together.

{June 27, 2013}   Life Would Be SImple..

If I could tell every bit of my life to someone,
If i did not worry about mistakes i did and learnt from,
If i could laugh without a fear of being hurt,
If i could dance without being laughed,
If i could write down all my feelings on a paper and did not care if somebody would read it,
If my bff wouldn’t have been so complicated,
If nobody wanted to interfere in each others life,

Take the first step

If you keep doing what you’re doing now, where do you see yourself in one year? You’ll make progress in some areas of your life but are they the areas that you care most about? Are they the areas that mean the most to you?

Most of us would love to move forward in certain areas of our life but let’s face it, sometimes it’s hard. Sometimes we are so used to thinking a certain way that we can’t seem to make a first definite step, even though we know deep down in our hearts that it’s the right thing to do.

With that in mind, I compiled a list of actions you can take today that could make a big difference in your life:

  1. Think as if – Your present circumstances are the result of your past thinking and your future will be the result of what you are thinking now. Your thoughts have to be higher than your present circumstances for you to rise higher. Constantly tell yourself that you already have what you are striving for. If you do this, your behaviors and mental images will harmonize with those thoughts and take you closer to your goal.
  2. Concentrate on one definite goal in life – If you direct your energy toward too many objectives at once, you won’t make enough progress in either direction. In order to move forward, you have to literally walk down a singular path toward a major definite purpose that defines what you want to do most with your life.
  3. Aim high – Think about the goals you have set for yourself. Are they really the most that you are capable of? Chances are, you’re better than you think and you can do things that you previously never thought possible. Everyone has potential inside of them like a seed but you need to elevate your thoughts to harmonize with that potential. If the goals you have set for yourself are mediocre, double their height and tell yourself that you’re good enough to achieve them. You’ll only attempt what you think you can do.
  4. Give more than you receive – One of the greatest guarantees in life is if you give the world the best that you have to offer, you are almost certain to be rewarded in some way. Anything that is noteworthy is only attainable by first giving something of equal or greater value.
  5. Do what you love – Only by doing what you love will you have enough motivation to persist during times of difficulty. All you have to do is look at your habits and find a way to profit from them. This could very well be the best way to achieve outstanding success.
  6. Develop your strengths – Because of heredity and environmental influences, you have strengths or the potential for strengths that most people do not have. Your strengths are your best asset for moving passed the resistance you’ll run into. Don’t ignore them. If you are good enough at what you do, there will be a demand for it and you will be rewarded for providing value to people.
  7. Associate with people who inspire you – You may have noticed when you associate with someone long enough, their habits and ways of thinking start to rub off on you. That is because states of mind are contagious; they are transmittable from one mind to another. If you hang around someone who thinks little of themselves and has self-destructive habits, you’ll eventually show signs of being influenced by them. If you hang around someone who is confident and aims high in life, the same subsequent effect will occur.
  8. Have an open mind – When someone closes their mind to something, they will cease to learn and grow in that area. All because someone doesn’t agree with something doesn’t mean they should be completely ignorant about it. The better option would be to keep an open mind on all subjects at all times. If you choose to be more receptive to ideas that you’re not used to, you’ll have more opportunities look at a different perspective that could prove beneficial to you.
  9. Move closer to your goals on a daily basis – You should devote at least a couple of hours a day to what you are trying to accomplish in life. On average, the total number of hours a person sleeps and works in a day is 16 hours. That leaves another 8 hours of free time that can used for anything that you want. Never tell yourself that you “don’t have time.” Instead, find a way to blend what you currently do with what you desire to do.
  10. Master luck and ride the wave of momentum – When you reach a point in your life when things seem to be working in your favor, you should milk it for all it’s worth. This is your best opportunity to work harder than you’ve ever worked before because you’re already moving at a faster pace because of the momentum behind you. When you have momentum, the work that you do will have a greater effect than usual and you’ll make much more progress than at any other time.
  11. Start with the “can do” portion of a task – A lot of people focus too much on the “can’t do” portion of an important task and end up not making a move at all. Instead, you should focus on the “can do” portion so that you’ll gradually gain the sufficient tools and momentum to take on the harder parts later.
  12. Help people with the same problems you have – Solving our problems in life isn’t always easy. Our toughest problems often require the most creative solutions—solutions that are outside our scope of thinking. But when you help people solve problems that are similar to your own, you’ll find it easier to solve your own problems. By solving the same problem from different perspectives, you’ll find the all-inclusive answer that seems to work repeatedly. Solving these types of problems will become second-nature to you and eventually you’ll be able to solve your own problems, even the toughest ones.

In closing, don’t wait until the time is just right to take the first step toward achieving your goals. The time will never be just right. Make the resolution to start where you are now and go for what matters most in your life. Where you end up one year from now is up to you.

— not the complete post is originally owned by me. 🙂

In what ways are you moving forward in life? You’re more than welcome to leave your ideas in the comments below.

By days spending on “why do i fall asleep too often?” i found an answer to it.

The possible reasons are:-

  1. You are tired and your body needs rest. [physically]
  2. You are tired and your mind needs rest.[mentally]
  3. You are hurt and want to escape from this situation. from everyone and everything.
  4. You are guilty of some action you have been doing.
  5. You are missing someone and know that there is no possibility of meeting them. That’s why you fall asleep.
  6. Your exams are near and you want to escape from this scary situation
  7. You are afraid of something.




et cetera